why?

hi, I’m Jas πŸ‘‹πŸ½

Why did I start the INFP club?

Here’s why…

My twenties
In just 6 days’ time, I’m saying goodbye to my twenties and hello to my thirties.

Those twenties have been an interesting time, indeed. They started out at an extension of my awkward teens years, and promptly became awkward adulthood years.

During this decade, there were a couple of significant discoveries that I made.

1) I was an introvert
2) I was an INFP
3) I was an HSP/empath

They’re all linked, really.

the last 5 years
5 years ago, I was really unhappy at work – and in my life. I have since realised that, though there are more and more of us seeking fulfilment in our jobs, us INFPs are particularly unique in our sensitivity and our utter need to have a work and life that we find nourishing.

my life story(ish)
It’s been quite a journey for me. Here are some highlights:

1989: born in a suburb in SW (Greater) London
2005: sensitive, academic kid. I loved to learn, and I loved the kudos that came from earning top grades from the 2+ hours I diligently spent each night on homework from a young age.
2006-07: applying to university, having chosen Math(s), Biology & Chemistry for my A-Levels. Fed up of studying, subjects I found dull, and confused about what I wanted to do with my life
2008: dropped out of university
2010: dropped out of university – again
fell into financial services recruitment
2015: quit my City job to study a Masters in Psychology (see below)
did a course with Escape the City
2016: ran a pilot for a new education programme / alternative to university (Thriva Programme); went to World Domination Summit
Late 2016: Masters and Education programme came to an end, felt like a huge failure and had zero idea what to do with my life. Isolated myself, mood worsened, mental state slowly plummeted; diagnosed with depression and anxiety
2017-early 2018: took time out for therapy, self-care and some travel
May 2018 – Apr 2019: did a remote sales job for a friend’s mortgage business
Increasingly knew that I wanted to do my own thing again, but this time not take over the world, and just be a solopreneur/freelancer sustaining myself.
March 2019: a week-long trip to Slovenia gave me the clarity I needed to say I wanted to take the plunge and start freelancing as a content writer
April 2019: turned down part-time work with the mortgages company to give this freelance thing a go
May 2019: spent my first proper month (Slovenia didn’t really count) as a ‘digital nomad’, working from a co-living space in Tenerife. It was amazing.
June 2019: turned 30, focused on building my freelance writing business, started the INFP club, my 4th blog for introverts (previous: A Happier Introvert, The Quarter Life Introvert, IntrovertJedi)

On MBTI
As a man of science myself, with a Masters in Applied Positive Psychology, I’ve not come across a personality test or a tool (and believe me, I’ve done a few!) which I resonate with more than the Myers-Briggs (Personality) Type Indicator.

Research-backed or not, Myers-Briggs, and being an INFP, has spoken to me deeply and I can, 95% of the time, pick out the NFs I come across quite easily.

Since discovering I was an INFP
Well, I absorbed all the books & blogs on introversion that I could, of course.

I made friends with other introverts online, and increasingly INFPs and INFJS, as my “introvert reading” became finer-tuned and I sought out INFPs/Js rather than just “introverts”.

Since Susan Cain’s ‘Quiet‘ TED Talk catalysed the conversation around introverts, I’ve read a lot. But, despite all of the blogs, facebook groups, meetups & other communities out there… I’ve never come across a dedicated, curated, INFP community.

One where I can hang out and learn from INFPs & feel like I am in a place where I am supported + understood. With stories, conversation & good vibes.

We’re all out there, managing our INFPness and looking for ways to navigate our careers and our lives, to continue to grow and feel more nourished, feel more ourselves.

This is what the INFP club is here for.

A place for INFPs to feel connected, to feel inspired, and to feel at home – and where they can learn how they can find work & create a life they find nourishing.

I feel excited as I write this (or, rather, type this up) from 36,000 feet in the air somewhere between Tenerife and London (on my way back from the co-living space I mentioned earlier).

πŸ‘‰πŸ½ If you’re still with me, πŸ‘‰πŸ½ start right here.

Oh, and to make sure you receive every new INFP interview as it happens, and to be given early-access to the INFP forum, and more… πŸ‘‰πŸ½ join us πŸ™‚

Right, that’s enough from me. So, here you go πŸ‘‰πŸ½ DIVE RIGHT IN πŸ™‚

PS. Not sure if you’re an INFP? You can take the test over here πŸ‘‰πŸ½ 16personalities.com -> it won’t take more than 10 minutes, and it might just be the most important test you ever take (it was for me)

PPS. If you’re an INFJ, you might also like it here. INFPs and INFJs are very, very similar.